I read a post that said, “Cutting ties with the people who hurt you sometimes isn’t enough. You must also cut ties with the version of you that allowed it!” That is so true. Which leads to the question why do we allow ourselves to tolerate unnecessary hurt in relationships. Why is it that we ask God to remove certain people out of our lives and then turn around and let them right back in, or we add people with the same characteristics to do us harm? Why is it so difficult to move on? It may not even be about the person hurting you, just that God is taking you to another level and everybody cannot go where God is taking you! Do not be like Esau and lose what God has for you over a bowl of soup! (Genesis 25:29-34). He lost his birthright because he was hungry, and he wanted instant gratification. How sad is that. Don’t choose instant gratification when God may be trying to prepare you for greater that your natural eyes can see. Do not let someone hold you back from what God has for you! Some folk can block your blessings! One thing I know for sure is if we let our emotions lead us, we may be unable to move on. We let our feelings take control even when we know the relationship is harmful. Most of us have been there at least once. Unfortunately there are some who allow themselves to be in toxic relationships repeatedly. They may think they have their reasons, but trust me, there is no reason that justifies being in a toxic relationship. You are better! You deserve better! God made you better! Don’t let loneliness be the reason you keep a toxic person in your life. There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Some people hate being alone so much that they settle for a toxic relationship. You have to love yourself enough to know it is not worth losing all that God has for you. If you are caught up and it seems you just can’t move on, there is an answer. God said he will always provide us a way out. First, you must realize that freedom begins in your mind. You can change your friends, your address, delete or block them, but until you change your mind, your way of thinking, you will continue to accept the same behavior. Once you are free in the mind, you can break free from any type of bondage and no devil from hell can keep you from moving on! Once you know who you are and whose you are, you will not lose everything God has for you over a “bowl of soup.”  Let us learn from Esau. My prayer is that we all grow in wisdom and know the difference between a healthy relationship and a toxic one. I pray that we learn when God removes someone from our lives and shut the door, we don’t open it, instead we lock it! My prayer is when God opens a door, we keep it moving, not afraid to walk through it. We must listen to God’s instructions on both sides. Yes, we must love like God loves us. However, sometimes we must love from a distance. This may include family, if the relationship is toxic. Because God does not want us to put other people above our walk with Him or the plans He has for us. Always remember that those of us who love Christ are never alone. The Holy Spirit dwells within us. We have a friend name Jesus who is with us always. He loves us unconditionally. There is no better friend than Jesus!
Love and Blessings…

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:” (Ecclesiastes3:1)

“Walk with the wise and become wise,
for a companion of fools suffers harm”
(Proverbs 13:20)

“I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them. For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naive.” (Romans 16:17-18)

“But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people. (2 Timothy 3:1-5)

“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13)


  1. Amen. Sometimes it hurts to move on because we want others to experience the joy of what God is doing and where He is leading us.


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