I was asked the other day if I thought God brings people together or if marriages happen more as a result of our choices. This really is a God’s sovereignty versus our free will type question. I believe if we let him, God leads us to jobs, ministry opportunities, educational opportunities, relationships, so why not spouses too? His Word assures us that He is personally involved in, and concerned with our lives. So yes, I believe that God does divinely connect people together. That said, God still respects our free will. I believe if God has marriage in your future, he will bring that person in your life and He will use your choices, the choices of your spouse to be, and His sovereignty to make that happen. I believe the choices we make can position us for the day when the right someone comes along. I am by no means an expert on marriage but I do know that the Word says in marriage, two people become one flesh. So I think if there is one aspect we should be placing in God’s hand, it definitely should be marriage. Marriage will alter the course of the rest of your life. Your choice of a spouse is important. We need to pray and ask for God’s guidance, discernment, and wisdom. Then we need to pay attention when he speaks. Don’t ignore the signs or the gut feelings. Sometimes we just ignore God’s signs and answer because it’s not what we want to hear. Ok then, why did we ask in the first place? That is what I mean when I say God’s “match making” includes our freedom of choice. He is not going to force on us this man or woman who He has placed right in front of our eyes.

I really don’t think it is as simple as asking God and He will send that soul mate you’ve been waiting for. It will involve patience, and trusting that God knows what and who is best for us. Because again what we think we want may not be what’s best for us, (I don’t want him or her because fill in the blank). God can bring people together, but people also have to choose to make a relationship work. God is sovereign and can make a situation good, but it is up to us to stay committed to the marriage. I wish I had known this when I was married, but then again I did not know Jesus like I know Him now. I know now for anything to work in our life, our primary focus should be on Jesus as he brings people and things into our life. If you are searching for a spouse without first developing a personal relationship with Jesus, you are putting the horse before the cart. Our actions and thoughts have an impact on our outcomes. At the end of the day, God has a way of bringing people to where He needs them to be and somehow that balance includes both our free choice and His sovereign will. How he does it is one of those mysteries about God which we as mere mortals will never know, at least not in this life. I think the key to mold God’s sovereignty and our free choice is to make our choices only in obedience to him. So what do you think? Is God a matchmaker? Do you believe he has or will send you your soul mate?  Comment here or go to Face Book Emanuel group and comment. I really would like to know your thoughts. Love and Blessings…


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